Saturday, April 26, 2014

At the Close of Infertility Awareness Week, 2014

* At the close of Infertility Awareness week, I would like to reflect on the daily-ness of infertility for those who live with it. Though we, as a group, may speak out more during this week to raise awareness and try to break the shaming silence, we experience the sorrows of infertility every day, every hour, every minute. *
This is not meant to be a downer or to accuse any one of "rubbing our noses" in it, simply to give a little taste of how infertility changes how you see the world and everyone in it!

The Daily-Ness of Infertility

The painful reminders:
Mother's Day Sales
Kid's Day in the Mall
A&W's Mama Burger (which is my favourite burger) and Baby Burgers
Pregnant woman parking spaces
Ad's on Facebook and other websites
(They seem to think that because I looked up sperm count and ovulation once or twice I need to see every ad that has anything to do with children)
Whenever I see anything pale pink
A School
A swing set
Baptism's and Confirmations
Alter Servers

The Good and Uplifting Reminders:
(Most Days) Bible Mentions of Infertility and/or Suffering
The Facebook group- Catholic IF-St. Gerard, Pray for us!
The daily CHOICE to follow Christ and His Church
(Realizing that if my faith was dependent on my feelings, I would worship drugs or chocolate. Infertility reminders me that my Faith is a gift primarily and is an act of the WILL)
A Cross
A Rosary
Pictures of Saints who have Suffered (which is most of them... or maybe all of them!)

Most days the Painful Reminders out number the Good and Uplifting Reminders. I should remember though that is the not the quantity but the QUALITY that matters most!

Monday, April 21, 2014

Infertility Awareness Week

Infertility Awareness Week, 2014: A Catholic Perspective Document

I was never one to hide our infertility. My family is one that shares information and I have the gift of gab so if the situation presented itself, I shared about our struggle. My hubby is more sensitive about maintaining privacy. We noticed this difference in ourselves very quickly after marriage. Just another way that we are polar opposites. I have had to scale back my sharing sometimes because of his prudent judgement. But this is not one of those times...

I am sharing a wonderful document that was prepared by a wonderful lady, Rebecca, in honour of Infertility Awareness Week, which is this week, during the Octave of Easter! I am doing this because I think that there is too much silence and assumption (and not the Marian kind) that surrounds infertility and fertility health-issues. In a culture of death and a Church of Life, a couple struggling to conceive can feel misplaced, to say the least.

The document, I think, gives a hopeful opening into the many emotional and situational issues that the couple facing infertility is living with and how their friends and family can be supportive and compassionate.

I encourage all to read this document and pass it around!
We are a Church of COMMUNION, let us not let anyone suffer alone!